What's Up with Those Happy Couples?

Recently, one of our acquaintances revealed to my husband that he's been in a very unhappy marriage & that he doesn't know how much longer they can continue on the road they are going. This particular couple have been married for 20 years. They raised a daughter & now that she's an adult, they feel like there is this big hole in their union & they don't have much in common anymore. What was amusing to me was that my normally laid-back husband, after talking to this acquaintance, gave me a call in the middle of the day just to make sure that we were okay as a couple. He said, "We have things in common. You still love me?"  I thought it was hilarious that he wanted to make sure & hear directly from me that I am happy.  My husband & I have been married for 15 years & without hesitation, I can say that I'm very happy in our relationship.  We make sure to communicate & spend time with each other.  We have made a conscious decision to be completely present with one other while actively raising our boys.  We don't want to be a couple only connected through our kids.  When they are grown & make a life for themselves, I want to be able to look at my husband & say, "Ok, what are we up to next? Let's go".  And that's a goal that requires that we take diligent care of our relationship; connecting emotionally, mentally, spiritually, & physically. No relationship is perfect all the time. It takes a lot of work:  trust, patience, & constant vigilance.  Like the above quote, we want to be a couple that makes happiness a habit.

Here's 12 Things Happy Couples Do Every Single Day:

1. They go for a nice long hug.
2. They give each other space.
3. They go out of their way for each other without keeping score.
4. They listen. 
5. They act silly together.
6. But they also get serious when need be.
7. They make a point to check in throughout the day.
8. They remind each other that love--and staying in love--is a choice.
9. They find ways to brighten their partner's day.
10. They create their own daily rituals.
11. They cuddle.
12. They slow down together.

Read this: The Grammar of Dating Your Spouse. Make it a goal to cultivate romance, intimacy & friendship with your spouse.

Marriage needs communication, respect, love & trust.

Marriage is so much more than just a piece of paper.

And just because it's good to change up your "dating" life with your spouse, here's a cute article to use as reference:  Don't Stress, Impress: 6 Quirky Date Ideas to Replace Old Traditions.  Be creative & have fun! Wishing everyone constant love & happiness. Make your relationship a priority & happiness a habit! ♥

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